Dropping the Morning Nap

Our pediatrician told me that children are generally ready to drop the morning nap around 15 months, but the age varies from child to child – as with most things.  My nephew went to 1 nap at 11 months, and I’ve heard of 2 year olds still taking 2 naps.  Henry is 14 1/2 months and in transition between 2 naps and 1 nap.  

Around Christmas last year I mentioned on BITW that 12-month-old Henry was transitioning to 1 nap without much drama.  I jinxed it.  For a week leading up to Christmas, his naps were inconsistent and he fought his afternoon naps.  Due to my school-nerd ways, I remembered reading that protesting the afternoon nap is a telltale sign that baby is ready to transition to 1 nap.  The first transition day we tried one nap, he awoke at 7:30, took 1 nap from 11-1:30, was generally pleasant all day and went to bed at 7:30.  Unfortunately, our easy-going happy baby disappeared after that.  For the next 2 months, Henry was cranky, whiny, clingy, had little appetite and was generally difficult.  I spent many hours on the toilet, lying awake in bed, driving the car, and staring blankly out the window thinking about why this was happening.   

After 2 months of inconsistent napping, I re-evaluated my decision to transition Henry to 1 nap.  I re-read the Weisbluth and Ferber books.  My reading comprehension is poor and I knew there was a good chance I was wrong about the “telltale signs.”  Upon re-reading the books I decided that Henry wasn’t ready to transition to 1 nap.  It was no coincidence that his chipper personality disappeared around the same time we changed his schedule.  I put him back on his old 2-nap schedule, and he magically returned to our happy go-lucky son.  I think that Henry’s inconsistent napping the week before Christmas was a result of having family in town, which meant he was off schedule and sleeping in places other than his own crib.  After the New Year he had a terrible cold for 2 weeks, which he passed to me – likely through one of his boogery slobbery kisses. 

The books talk about parent-led parenting and baby-led parenting, and I think most of us fall in the realm between these two extremes.  Before I sleep trained Henry, I charted his sleep patterns and then stuck firmly to the patterns he exhibited.  I generally don’t push him to do things before he is ready.  If we try something a few times and he’s clearly not interested or upset, I let it pass and return to it a few days or weeks later.  This philosophy may stem from the fact that we started solid foods on the early side (4 months), and I discovered his dairy allergy around 5 months (with the OK from the pediatrician).  I always wonder if he would’ve exhibited an allergy had I held off on dairy until 8 months (the book-recommended time).   

Everyone told me that the 1 nap transition is hard, and he would eventually get the hang of it.  They were right.  Henry’s schedule now entails taking 2 naps for 3 days and 1 nap the 4^th day.  This schedule depends on what time he wakes in the mornings.  If he wakes before 7:30, he has 2 naps, but if he wakes after 7:30, he takes 1 nap.  We will probably stick to this schedule for another month or two before he’s truly ready to quit the morning nap. 

During the failed transition, per Dr. Weisbluth’s advice, I attempted to gradually push Henry’s morning nap later and later.  Through experimenting, I learned that Henry likes to take his one nap earlier than most kids (generally parents split the day evenly with a nap from around 12-2).

When Henry was a newborn I avoided experimentation and change with sleep schedules, feedings, etc.  But after a few experiments with varied schedules, foods, etc., I’ve learned that he’s going to be OK.  And a little short-term experimenting can have long-term benefits.  

Vacuum Walker

Despite the fact that he has a Firetruck to walk with, Henry prefers the vacuum cleaner. Hit the play to see him in action.

"Muffin Tin Mondays"

My friend sent me a link to Muffin Tin Mom and I immediately had to implement Muffin Tin Mondays - after all it was Monday.  The meal was neither creative nor aesthetically pleasing, as all the other Muffin Tin Monday posts seem to be - but Henry loved the muffin holes.  He happily picked from each compartment: penne with homemade pasta sauce, salmon and cutie wedges.  As an aside, I love feeding him pasta with red sauce, because the red sauce I make is packed full of carrots, celery, onions and crushed tomatoes, which are GREAT for his poo.    

What to Order for Toddler at a Japanese Restaurant

Image from Mari's East West Kitchen, which has great recipes.

Part 2 of my posts on what toddlers can eat when you go out to ethnic restaurants.  

Henry loves Japanese food.  In my opinion it's perfect baby food:  light, subtle, and includes lots of great proteins and veggies.  Although many of the below items are things I can make at home for a much more affordable price, there are other items on the menu I like to order that I can't make at home.

Salmon (sake) Kama or Yellowtail (Hamachi) Kama are great dishes for toddlers.  Kama is the fish collar, and is very tender.  It's not a ton of meat, but plenty to fill up a little belly.  Although it's on the salty side, it's packed with healthy fats.  We pair Henry's salmon kama with white rice and broccoli.  If you want to make this at home, you can call your fishmonger and ask him/her to save the collar for you. Many places throw out the collar, so you might even get it for free!  Salt and broil for 10 minutes.

Miso soup:  Henry loves the tofu floating in the soup, and the broth is saltier than what he usually gets at home.  My sister mixes rice into the soup for added substance.

Teriyaki (chicken, beef, shrimp, salmon) is also a safe bet.  Henry loves the sweet sauce.  

Ramen Noodle Soup:  I cut up the noodles and he slurps them up.  He loves the fish cake that usually accompanies the soup.  And the soft braised pork is easy for him to chew.  I would pass on udon, it's a lot chewier than ramen.

Onigiri is also a great snack or meal.  It's a rice ball with something delicious in the middle:  salmon, seaweed, plum or other oishi (delicious) things.  Although it's not as nutritious as some other options, this is probably his favorite.  He loves rice like his Dadda.  

Gyoza:  preferably steamed or in a soup - so the skin isn't tough and you can avoid unnecessary oil.  Dumplings are easy to chew (ground meat) and include veggies and a noodle wrap.  

Shrimp Shiumai (cantonese influence, but often served at Japanese restaurants) are very soft and easy to chew.  Plus they are delicious!

Write in "Taiwanese" in the 2010 Census

You're probably not Taiwanese, so why should you read this post?  Watch the video.  It is awesome.  I don't know if I'm biased, because I'm Taiwanese, but my husband (who is of Irish, Scottish, German, and Norwegian descent) loved it too.  My favorite parts are the Taiwanese guy imitating Obama's voice, and the people speaking in Taiwanese about Ba Zang (sticky rice in banana leaf).  It's so true that we, Taiwanese people, are overlooked regularly as Chinese, Japanese, Korean or Thai (hence the Thai food joke in the video).  And now that our children are growing up experiencing similar oversight, it's about time we step up and demand to be counted!

Pass the video along to your Taiwanese friends and family - even if you're not Taiwanese.  :)  Do it for Henry!

Getting older ... But Still Not Walking ... Or is he?!!!??!!

I forgot that people actually read my blog and received dozens of emails and messages asking me where we are going.  The truth is we don't know where we are going!  We are going to try to sell our place first and continue casually looking at houses in the north suburbs.  No, I'm not pregnant, so you can stop wondering.  I  also retract my whining about 30 being old.  I got a lot of flack from other moms.  Tee hee.

You'll be happy to hear that this post is about Henry getting older.  He is 14 months now, and starting to look like a little boy.  Although he is a champion cruiser, and will stand for a second unassisted, he still won't walk unassisted.  I guess he'll just be a late walker.  I've read that kids who walk later pick it up quicker, so hopefully that will translate into fewer bumps and bruises.

Henry is, however, communicating with gusto and confidence.  He points at everything he wants and grunts.  He has a few words.  He hands me books he wants me to read to him.  He points at the balloon in "Good Night Moon" when asked "Where is the balloon?"  He lies on his back in the tub and kicks - I support him with my arm.  He smiles and poses for the camera.  Henry can also use a fork - sort of - and tries to put his own shoes on.  He's very interested in putting things into other things - stacking cups are his current favorite toy.  He also stacks blocks instead of just knocking them over.  Although our little boy is behind in walking, he seems to be A-OK in other departments.

I can't believe how much he changed over the 2 days I was in Austin.  His poops have even grown in size.

An of course, after writing this entry, Henry took his first 2 steps + 2 more steps unassisted.  My eyes welled up with tears of pride and joy.  :)  tee hee.  It's the little things that make my days special and meaningful.

Packing

My apologies for the radio silence yesterday.  As you can see from the above photo, I’ve been packing up all the garbage in our apartment – plus Chris, Henry and I spent the weekend apart in Austin, the Wisconsin Dells, and Evanston respectively. 

We’re braving the market and putting our condo up for sale.  We met with a listing agent last week, and he gave us the “pitch.”  We knew we would have to take a loss, but we were hoping for a better listing price recommendation.  At one point during the meeting I thought Chris was going to cry.  After a few days of consideration, and looking at our options to buy, we decided to go ahead with the sale.

Packing with a toddler crawling around is not exactly easy.  I would put something in a box, and Henry would take it out.  But generally speaking he was a doll.  He played quietly on the floor while I packed.  I kept reminding myself that if I was working, the entire process would be even more difficult.  At least I don’t have to take off of work to meet the movers today, etc.  I really respect mothers who can manage working and the responsibilities of keeping a home.  It is no small feat. 

The movers are coming today to put all of our crap in storage, and the photographer is coming on Friday to take pictures of our apartment and take measurements for a floor plan.  If all goes well, our condo will be on the market in a week or 2.  Things have progressed quickly considering we met with the listing agent last week.  I’m not sure we’re emotionally prepared to move, but we are big saps.

Wish us luck!